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Sunday, October 27, 2013

Whatsapp.....You shrunk the world ~ Social Media Bug

Whatsapp…..the first time I heard it, it kind of sounded what 'ssup, a slang for ‘what is going on in life’? Technically, it is an application that connects you with your friends and families no matter which corner of the world you or they reside in. Define it and I would say, “A seemingly real world where friends/families/acquaintances meet, chat, play or share funny anecdotes without seeing each other face to face!”

Whatever, I just entered this virtual world a couple of weeks before. And it took me just a couple of days to realize how this text-ing medium was changing me into a person I am not. Addiction, sudden change of priorities and laziness had crept in, without me realizing the change that came over me. And it all started with joining my school group that happens to have more than fifty members. What followed was a constant buzzing sound on my phone, day and night! Although I am not quite active on this application, I was sure fascinated by it as all first timers are. However slowly, the fizz of the gizmo started waning out for me as I realized how little by little it was eating into my schedule and day to day chores. And in less than a week, I un-joined the group. A friend later messaged me saying, “You could have muted the group, why did you leave?” Well, muting does not solve addiction. So I just replied, “I am just not into this stuff”. But it amazes me as to how technology can change you in more ways than one. People promptly reply on whatsapp but would fail to respond to calls or messages from near and dear ones. Working lot get time to ‘whatsapp’ each other once in every five minutes, while they crib on other social networking sites as to how busy their office life is that there is no sufficient time to even eat or sleep. Still, people claim that such social networking applications have shrunk the world and have brought people closer.

And if this claim were to be true, what is wrong with keeping in touch with old friends? Nothing!

What is wrong in using a technology that makes you happy as it gives you a diversion from a humdrum existence? Nothing!

Then why is it that somewhere something doesn't sound right! Has our thinking changed? Yes! Are people wrong? Well, the take is tough as the definition of right and wrong always varies from person to person. Probably it is the change. The change in socializing is yet to sink in as more often than not, we go with the flow without realizing how the change changes us. More so, because we always associate socializing with tweeting, text-ing, partying, exchanging jokes and puzzles over snack time or even having dinners together once in a blue moon. We do not realize that there is more to look out for in the real world than merely raising virtual cattle, or investigating virtual criminal cases on Internet. Socializing also means exploring new places, making new friends in the real world and even pursuing new hobbies. But most importantly, one needs to socialize with self too. One has to discover that exit point which helps him/her in venting out his/her negative emotions in a healthy manner, instead of lashing out on social network.

And before readers get judgmental, I am not against social networking/media. In fact, social networking has always inspired me in many ways and not forgetting to mention, positively. It inspired me to blog. It got me great friends too. Through this media, I have got encouragement from people living across the world, from ones I know and the ones I don’t know. And that is when I realized that nothing is a bane as long as certain limits are not crossed. Only we need to know where the line demarcating the real and the unreal, is drawn. We need to know where to control our urges to react and when to make a point. And most importantly we need to know our priorities in life. Replying immediately, rather impulsively to a message is not important. Replying with sense after some thought is what matters. And then, ‘whatsapp-ing’ won’t be an addiction that springs out of a necessity to socialize! What say?                                                                                                                                                                                                           

P.S: I am still on Whatsapp. Only thing is I don't mute groups now. I put myself in mute mode :) And one more thing, the above views are solely mine. So people who feel offended with my post, may kindly put themselves in mute mood too :)


Do we always mean what we say? ~ Speech Discretion

A long time since I blogged. A really long time! Not that I had nothing to write about. But my busy and idle times have been tricky. When my head was brimming with thoughts, I would be preoccupied with something. And when I seem to have everything in place, laptop in hand, nothing to do and with my son sleeping, I fall into the trap of writers block. Nevertheless, I just decided to tap a few keys today. Guess, I needed the idyllic feel of my laptop keys and the warmth that exudes from the screen, every time I open a fresh word document to vent out.

But then, that is not entirely the reason for me visiting this space. Just that I am in a slightly remorseful mood. Wish I could just get certain things out of my head. OK! Not that things aren't fine. They always are. But it is mostly the human tendency to goof up on good times, always! Isn't it? And in my case, when I feel things are going just fine, that instant is always a jinx for me! And I just figured out that I am quite that awfully unique someone who always in the rarest of rare instants invites some elusive Pandora box to unlock itself and throw up on me! Well, let’s say I just got into a situation today where I said something I din realize I had said and later realized I shouldn't have made my point the way I did!  And my expression was entirely this, “OMG! I think I should not have said what I just said”. I guess, such incidents happen with everyone at some time or the other. Some realize it. Some don’t. And in my case, I realized a little late. But then, any realization brings another unsavory character with it and that is regret. Regret takes on the form of a villain whose nature can only go from bad to worse. The longer it lingers, the worse it makes you feel. And needless to say, it eats into your grey matter as well. That said, I was still brooding over my inadvertent mistake, my father came and patted me. I was about to share my pent up story with him, when he stopped and said, “I don’t want to know the cause of your sore mood. But I know what can make it go away.” And he continued, “It is ok when you make mistakes. Sometimes, you don’t really mean to say certain things, but you just say it. And you may not have necessarily meant what has been interpreted. But it is fine. Just let it go. Don’t brood over it. The time, the instant it happened is now a thing of past, no matter how many seconds before it happened. And one should not live in the past. What matters, is lessons learnt.”

And, that got me peace finally. It just happens that at certain moments, we do behave in a different way, or make certain statements. Those moments may not be necessarily mood driven. Sometimes, they could be destiny driven too. OK! I am not getting into a self consolation mode. It is just that we often behave in a designed way, no matter how hard we try to live by self defined instructions. Because, one cannot be perfect all the time. Isn't it? But then, I would not prod into my own fiasco much. But given a chance I would wish that my words need not be interpreted the way they have been. As I know, words cannot be taken back. But lessons sure can be!